I work with neurodivergent adults who are rebuilding their lives after leaving high-control systems, especially religious ones.
Many of the people I work with are intelligent, reflective, deeply ethical, and exhausted. They’ve spent years trying to function inside structures that rewarded obedience, suppression, and endurance, while quietly punishing difference, sensitivity, and dissent. When those structures fall away, what’s left is often not freedom, but disorientation.
I help people rebuild from there.
My work sits at the intersection of neurodivergence, deconstruction, and nervous-system repair. I’m especially focused on ADHD, scrupulosity, and the long tail of shame and self-distrust that comes from growing up inside systems where worth was conditional and authority lived outside the self.
I’m trained as an ADHD coach through the International ADHD Coach Training Center, and I’m also someone who has lived this terrain personally: religious devotion, faith collapse, misdiagnosis, burnout, sobriety, and the slow work of learning how to trust myself again.
All of my work is based on a Capacity-First Model and built on the Iterative Trust Method.
A Capacity-First approach means we start with the nervous system, not discipline. Regulation comes before expectation. Agency comes before accountability. Nothing is framed as a moral failure or a character flaw.
The Iterative Trust Method is how change actually happens. Instead of insight followed by pressure, we use small experiments, reflection, and repetition. Trust is rebuilt through evidence, not belief. You don’t have to “decide” to trust yourself. You learn to.
This work is not about optimization, productivity for productivity’s sake, or becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about building a life that fits your actual capacities, values, and constraints, and learning how to stay in relationship with yourself while you do.
My work tends to resonate most with people who:
Are neurodivergent and tired of being treated like a motivation problem
Have left or are leaving a high-control religious or ideological system
Feel competent on the outside and deeply unsure on the inside
Are done with shame-based self-improvement
Want practical structure and psychological safety
You do not need to be “ready.” You do not need a five-year plan. You do not need to want transformation.
You just need to be willing to notice what’s actually happening.
I’m not a therapist, and I don’t offer diagnoses or treatment. My work is educational, reflective, and coaching-based. It’s designed to support people in rebuilding self-trust, capacity, and agency alongside — or independent of — clinical care.
I don’t promise fixes. I don’t sell certainty. I don’t believe healing moves in straight lines.
What I offer is structure without coercion, language without judgment, and a way to move forward that doesn’t require betraying yourself.