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Connie McClellan's avatar

This commentary is excellent. I hope it’s okay to mention that some people are this way (always accessible) with their dogs(!)

Mrs. X's avatar

My godsssssssssss this resonates: " A good mother makes herself available until there is nothing left. Then she finds more."

I get angrier with every passing day at what patriarchy does to us all. Once you see it, you can't unsee it. And Mormonism was fuel on that fire that burned us all alive. Thank you for this post.

Melissa Grace's avatar

I feel this as the over-functioner in my parenting and marriage. It’s also in the resentment I’ve held towards my MIL for the way I felt she enabled/s her sons and was/is an example of an overfunctioner. Can’t say “no,” responsible for everyone else’s feeling. I want to blame her, but I also know she wasn’t born self sacrificing. She was conditioned to do it just like my Mom and sisters, and I was.

Megan Verno, MS, CMHC's avatar

Oof. I caught that little piece about what happened to you, and I’m so sorry it did. I’m so glad you’re doing this work for yourself and your boys so they are learning something different. Your workshop sounds awesome! Good luck with it.